Tag: truth being bondage

This is my therapy being an (outgoing) introvert at heart. Overall, things have been good. No one can predict all that will happen throughout life no matter the amount of preparation given. The biggest challenge of my life was faced in my first few years of life. It really blew my mind when the memory came back and the extent given in hopes that it would be forgotten.

 

The areas of my life that was affected were mainly:

  • trust
  • forgiveness
  • opening of the heart
  • and the willingness to give.

 

My personal peace wins every time. This part of life could have been kept to myself, but being to myself is nothing new. I know that my journey can help others and I am excited about this opportunity to share. To learn more please purchase, read and review the book Truth Being Bondage. It is available at most major retailers. If you need help with moving beyond trauma and blockages, Passages to Truth (a journal) is coming soon. Thank you for your support!

 

Mo Abbie

In the blog post Rise or Fall, the excerpt is taken from a chapter near the end of the book Truth Being Bondage. The importance of this story is that it takes my journey full circle. You never know what may happen at any given moment. So live your life to the fullest. Don’t let anyone hijack your youth, your happiness or contentment. Keep love in your heart no matter what. An overwhelming experience can become your biggest life lesson. Stay blessed!

 

Two of the main reasons people do not get the results they want is articulating their point through communication and cooperation. You can love someone to bits but if you don’t express it in a way that resonates with them, it may not be received the way you would like it to be. Articulate your love. Leave no room for doubt. Cooperation, it takes two. Being on the same page for a certain goal can help manifestations come to pass sooner.

 

True story, I was in my mid 30’s when a certain event came back to me. It serves as the basis for the book Truth Being Bondage. As faded as it could have been when the choice is made to brush it off, brush it away, it doesn’t mean that it has no effect. This is a whole life effect. Maybe the better way to put it is, how do you manage childhood trauma?

1) Act as if it never occurred

2) Have counseling provided

3) Mention it at a later point in life especially if there is a noticeable social or growth block present

 

I will not say any route of disclosure is right or wrong. Personally, I am working through, 2 and/ or 3 is my preference, I do not see myself as a victim. I am still mainly in shock, and it’s been some years since the memory resurfaced. Anyone who has gone through this can benefit from removing any blockades in their life. My hope is for the reader to take action in moving forward to the fullness of life.

 

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Truly,

 

Mo Abbie

Yes, you can quietly garner the focus of attention. There may be something about your presence, your spirit or a matter of attraction that gains the attention of others. Sometimes you are seen, even when you don’t care to be seen. Here is an excerpt from Truth Being Bondage in the chapter Playing the Background.

 

Having to look out for my own protection I became keen on discernment. It’s one thing to see what people are presenting. As they call it, their representative. You should look out for angles. A position can be used to get closer to fulfill their personal agendas. Nonverbal communication can be just as telling. Watch how a person move as well as examine their character. There are times I do not catch it all. Fortunately, I have been able to snuff out many storms that were brewing.

My critical thinking skills would go into overdrive. All the questions a child asks are valid. At some point, it is as if we are shunned for taking a second look into things after a certain age. We are groomed to just accept everything we are presented, with no further questions. These days using your brain makes you a troublemaker. It’s a real go along to get along mentality. If beholding to deceit and lies is important to you keep it but keep that over there. I will continue to examine all people, places and things that impact my life.

I like dealing in the truth. I could care less about some fancy character someone made up or has modeled themselves after. That is cute and all, but what happens when you can no longer keep up the façade? Who will you become? Do you even know the real you?

I could imagine that Mom thought I was too young to know the truth about what happened to me. At what point do you come clean. There is never an easy time for something of that nature. That memory eventually disbanded from my mind, but it never really went away.

The present is only pointed into in small doses. Naturally, as memoirs delve into the past. In Truth Being Bondage we touch on present day. The most disheartening thing is I was in my mid 30’s when a repressed memory came back. A horrible memory it was, but it put so much into perspective. I found a whole new understanding of myself.

 

One simple question from a friend, that I would have normally blown off, helped this entire book writing journey unfold. My friend asked, “why are you still single.” I finally gave the question some thought, I went digging in my mind and I am so grateful. I only wish that I had done so sooner.

 

This excerpt is from the chapter, “Is It Me?”:

Women have been called out for dating a man’s potential. Consider me guilty of this. It is not just about what you want him to see and manifest. He must see that same potential as a reality within himself.

I decided to take on a self-examination. The question I can’t help but pose to myself, are these guys leaving something out when we break up? Am I being spared some painful truth to protect my feelings? The energy they give is as though they are standing in the way. Almost as if they were blocking the lane for my true mate to arrive. That could be the case.

One last disclaimer before we jump right into it. Don’t get me wrong, outside of one major incident, my childhood and young adult years were amazing. I would never take away from that or try to make things to be other than what they were. There is no need to compare war wounds or minimize what others may have gone through on a continual basis. Everyone has a story to tell. I always knew that I would write someday, but I never knew that I would tell my story. The reality is that my story is somewhat new to me since this major incident this book is focused around happened at such a young age and had been long forgotten. Do children forget sometimes, yes? If they forget, are they not affected, no? The trauma is ingrained. A repressed memory is a memory, nonetheless.

 

I feel for those who have had it rough throughout life. Let them find a proper outlet to loosen their worries. Experiencing peace and happiness should be desired in your heart, closely followed by your actions. This is my wish for the world.

 

Why ‘Truth Being Bondage’? Because the truth is said to set you free. When you know the truth but your caretake does not affirm it, you have nowhere else to go but internalize it. This is bondage.

This book almost came into existence under a few other names. Just when I thought I had the name ready, the title of the book chose me. For some reason, I kept hearing what sounded like, ‘Truth be in bondage’. I agreed, ‘sure do’. Growing up with parents originating from the south, it sounded quite alright to me. However, I knew good and well that was so far off and grammatically incorrect. But I just kept hearing it.

 

I gave in and decided to make Truth be in bondage a chapter, even before I knew exactly what would go in this chapter. These words kept ringing. I knew that it had a greater purpose. Is a chapter even sufficient enough to express these words? Once I broke down the meaning, it basically described the reason overall for the book itself.

 

Finally the words ‘be’ and ‘in’ came to fuse together to become ‘being’. It made sense and rang together better. That is how I came to title the book ‘Truth Being Bondage’. This was it! I had my final title! Funny enough, the title still may be slightly grammatically incorrect. This quirk creates a curious tone. A person would want to learn more in my opinion.

 

Take the time to read, share and rate. The more the word spreads about the book the sooner we can open the discussion. Here is another retailer carrying the book Truth Being Bondage: A Memoir, buy here. Thank you for your support.

Immediately after releasing the book I was concerned about how the title and the script on the back of the book would be received, especially by family. In this book my stance on their parentage is neutral. I love and appreciate my parents immensely and I am extremely grateful for them. I had to come back to the realization that it is exactly what it is, a book. Simply, it is reading and not just judging by the cover.

 

This book takes on a sort of hybrid of writing it is about my life. It mainly focuses on a certain time period and how it affected everything else. It is a ‘who done it’ of sorts. It is a bit of self-help. I got the chance to face any arrested development head on. I was able to travel back in time and analyze the things that required a deeper understanding. Looking at how things played out, I even understand why things were handled the way it was without judging whether it was right or wrong.

 

Emotional vulnerability is not my forte. There are portions of this book that allowed for that. I tried my best to avoid it to be honest. But I had to be honest with myself to even use the word truth in my title to be open enough allow for some vulnerability. There are also parts that show my personality of being playful and humorous. So if you run across something that reads that way, it is not by accident (I can’t help it).

 

Most of the book was written in the same order the chapters are displayed. However, heavier topics were written later or when I felt strong enough to face them. The first chapter was actually one of the last chapters I wrote. Which is why the book may have a wrap around effect when you read more into it.

 

This is inner work. Not only am I releasing, but I am also detaching from anything I no longer need to hold. I encourage the readers to do the same. Click here to order Truth Being Bondage. After reading, please rate and leave a book review.